Hostility only wins if we don’t know how to respond. Here is an easy, powerful way to turn the tide.
Hostility and incivility seem to be spreading like global, verbal terrorism, and it’s easy to see why. It feels powerful. It sways elections. One person can launch a verbal attack in a few words, spreading pain, fear, and intimidation and silencing others. Public figures have written popular books about using incivility to promote causes.
However, verbal and emotional incivility can be turned around, even by one person if you know how. Master the principles and tools of universal safety and you can quickly defuse fear and create empathy, respect, and shared purpose instead. Then great things can happen.
That’s the purpose of LetsKeepItCivil.org: to empower you to feel safe, stop aggression, and inspire a better way quickly and easily.
Civility doesn’t mean we always agree or give in. Instead it means:
Civility is strength because it resonates with people. It suddenly inspires truth and goodness instead of falsehood and hurt. Deep down, kindness and civility is what we want for ourselves, our children, and the world. So when we clearly see how its done—if it doesn’t look too hard—we’ll support it.
Use this site to create and feel safety even in the face of verbal and emotional aggression. Start by discovering how to spot and name hostility that already causes you pain and fear. Then learn how to turn it around and inspire a better way. (Physical aggression is beyond the current scope of this site.)
Civility is strength because it resonates with people.
You can’t force others to be civil, but you can move incivility out of the limelight and into the back alleys where it belongs. When you do that the right way, you create safety for yourself and everyone else. Everyone has the right to feel safe.
And above all, have fun and enjoy your newfound strength and power.
Everyone has the right to feel safe.
Kevin Crenshaw is a rapid turnaround CEO, leadership trainer, author, and speaker. His first book is The Neverboss: A Story and Blueprint for High-Performance, Hands-Off Leadership. Kevin and TeamLeap relied on decades of research and practice in work, school, nonprofit, home, and online environments to create LetsKeepItCivil.org. Their mission is to change the way the world sees leadership.
Anger During a Protest By David Shankbone (David Shankbone) [GFDL or CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons